…sleeping, working, spending time with the family, relaxing, pottering about the house, exercising, reading, thinking, and the list goes on. Since completing my 366 day writing challenge a few weeks ago, I have had a chance to reflect on the year and think about what the challenge has taught me.
I’m a fighter and didn’t want to miss a day!
What I have come to realise is that although I’m happy with what I achieved (after all, I now have lots of content for my site) it wasn’t the best use of my time each day. Then again, I could have stopped at any time, but I chose not to.
I don’t regret writing the posts that I felt like writing, but I do regret writing the ones that felt like a chore, which kept me away from my family and other things. Under ‘normal blogging circumstances’ I could have left the post for the next day, but the challenge was so ingrained in my mind and I didn’t want to fail. My love of writing took over and I wanted to prove that I could be a better writer within one year. All I did was wear myself out by trying to keep the posts up each day (in addition to looking after a young family and working full-time).
I never broke my challenge, but I probably broke a few promises to my family. Now I actually have time for them – I mean real time, not snippets here and there. My partner no longer has to wait for a piece of my time in the evening whilst I finish my blog, and my children are no longer hanging off my chair or climbing onto my lap whilst I am trying to type.
There’s more than one way to achieve a goal
If anything, this whole exercise has taught me that there is more than one way to achieve a goal. Blogging is fun and definitely my sort of thing, but the pressure of committing myself to doing it every day without fail, didn’t fit in with my current lifestyle.
I’m almost ready to get back into setting some new goals for myself, but want to make sure I include ample time in my schedule to catch those magic moments with my family from now on. I’m also going to make sure I have lots of time to recharge my batteries every day.
It’s all about balance
I now know that blogging when I am relaxed, inspired and in the right frame of mind enables me to write my best pieces of work. I’ll soon develop a nice new routine with my many blogs and other writing activities and look forward to the results it brings. After all, it’s much nicer to write when feeling inspired, rather than forcing yourself to think of the next sentence.
Appreciating the extra time
I’ve been appreciating so many things since stopping the daily deadline:
- I go to bed earlier if I feel like it.
- I appreciate the quiet and listen to my thoughts more instead of constantly thinking of new topics to write about (these still come to me but they are not forced).
- I have more family time.
- I get to choose the writing activity that I feel like doing.
- I’m happier and less stressed.
- I’m more energised (well, after about two weeks of exhaustion I was!).
The Golden Question
So my question today is about balance: Are there any blogging/writing activities that you do, that prevent you from spending time doing other things that are important to you?
Until next time…
- Note 336 – The 7 advantages and 7 disadvantages of daily blogging (mywritingnotebook.com)